Toward God

In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. The same was in the beginning with God. (Jn 1:1-2) And the Word was made flesh, and dwelt among us, (and we beheld his glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father,) full of grace and truth.(Jn 1:14)

The Greek pros translated here "with" is better translated "toward" as in 2Cor 3:4 and 1Thes 1:8.
The use of with here obscures a marvelous truth. Let's explore how "with God" obscures the meaning.

We know from 1Jn 4:8, 16 that God is Love.  That is, Father is selfless, without self.  Father's thoughts are always toward His creation, outward (Psa 145:16, Jer 29:11).  Father does not need (Acts 17:25).  He is complete, whole (Holy). We (creation) have nothing that Father wants or needs. He provides for our every need (Psa 107:9, Psa 136:25, Ecc 2:24). The mistake we make is imbuing our contrived deities with human needs and desires (self).  We create gods in our image.

We find then in Jn 1:1-2 that the Word is "toward God".  As the perfect expression of the Father, Jesus was/is also outward, selfless.  

I believe that in his original state, Adam was also toward God.  However, he was created to become selfish.  And so he became.  Once so oriented, there was nothing he could do to remedy it.  In fact, he had no desire to remedy it.  Self has no use for God (Rom 8:7). Self IS god (I, god - sorry Will Smith).

And every human since has been born in Adam's image (toward self - selfish, Gen 5:3).  The second Adam,  was once again in God's image, selfless, toward God (the Word made flesh).

So the idea that the Word was "with" God completely misses the point and obscures a marvelous truth about the very nature of Father and the Word (Who became flesh). Both are "toward".  That is, outward, selfless, Love. And by the indwelling Life of Christ, mankind will once again become selfless.  But we will all have had to experience the bondage of self and all the attendant torment and suffering.  For every ill is the direct result of the selfish nature in man (I, god).

So John is not speaking of the spatial relationship between Father and the Word.  Rather, Holy Spirit is revealing the selfless nature of both.  Now imagine for a moment future ages shared by countless sons and daughters brought to Glory through the Son, sharing the same selfless nature.  No conflict, hurt, sin or evil.  Consider also the priceless memorials of common suffering that will have proven beyond the shadow of a doubt, that the way of self is not an option, contrasting and revealing the transcendent Glory of Father.